How Therapy Works
Why a regular pace tends to matter more than any single session.
People sometimes come in hoping for a single powerful session that resolves something. Occasionally a session does feel like a turning point, but the actual mechanism of change is closer to repetition than revelation. Attachment patterns and anxiety responses were built over years, through thousands of small repeated experiences. They tend to shift the same way, through consistent, repeated experience of something different.
Weekly sessions build a kind of relational memory. Your nervous system gets repeated evidence that this particular relationship is stable and safe, which is part of why an attachment-focused approach tends to work. Skipping around, or coming in only when things spike, tends to keep things at the level of crisis management rather than shifting the underlying pattern.
I generally recommend starting weekly, especially for attachment-focused work, and adjusting frequency as things stabilize. It's a real commitment, both of time and money, and I'd rather be upfront about that than let someone start with the wrong expectations. If you're looking for occasional support during rough patches rather than ongoing work, it's worth naming that early so we can figure out if that's something I'm the right fit for.