Specialty · Secure Attachment & Reparenting Work
Most clients I see already understand their patterns intellectually. What's usually missing is the felt experience of safety and trust, not just the ability to name what's been missing.
Secure attachment develops through experience, relying on people, trusting that conflict doesn't mean abandonment, feeling allowed to have needs, and not having to manage everyone else to feel safe. Those experiences can be built in adulthood, including in the relationship between client and therapist.
Reparenting is one term for this, learning to give yourself, consistently, what you didn't reliably get growing up. It has nothing to do with blaming your parents.
What Progress Looks Like
Trusting good relationships without waiting for something to go wrong
Setting boundaries without fearing it will end the relationship
Accepting support without needing to earn it first
Responding to conflict without assuming abandonment
A quieter inner critic that no longer runs the show
Resting without needing to justify it
Change registers in the nervous system, not only in how you describe yourself. When a reaction comes up, we slow down enough to find the feeling underneath it and what it's asking for.
For clients whose inner critic is loud and self-compassion feels inaccessible, we build that capacity through direct practice in session.
Old patterns developed for a reason, usually to protect something younger and more vulnerable in you. We work on recognizing when that reactive part takes over, and strengthening a steadier part that can respond with more choice.
A Note on Training
I'm currently pursuing additional post-graduate training in attachment-based, emotion-focused, and compassion-based therapeutic approaches, and I try to stay current with the research behind all of it. If you have questions about my training or supervision, I'm glad to answer them during a consultation call.
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