Anxiety
Signs of high-functioning anxiety that are easy to overlook, particularly when you appear to be doing well.
High-functioning anxiety is not a formal diagnosis, and it is a phrase people use to describe anxiety that exists alongside strong performance. A person may be organized, reliable, and successful on the outside while feeling a steady undercurrent of worry, pressure, or unease on the inside. Because the outside looks fine, the anxiety can go unnoticed for years, including by the person experiencing it.
Anxiety is often connected to a fear of being criticized, left, or found lacking, and many people with high-functioning anxiety learned early that achievement or helpfulness was a way of staying valued. In Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), anxiety is frequently understood as a secondary emotion that develops around more vulnerable feelings such as fear, shame, or hurt, and productivity can become a way of keeping those feelings at a distance.
It is common to feel that other people have bigger problems, or that things are fine because you are functioning. Anxiety does not need to interfere with your performance in order to be worth addressing, and relief from constant pressure is a reasonable goal on its own.
Therapy can help you understand what the worry is protecting you from, build a different relationship with uncertainty, and develop a steadier sense of worth that does not depend on constant effort. You can read more on the page about anxiety therapy or the article on perfectionism and anxiety.
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